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Ego
Posted On: May 8, 2013 18:03:24 GMT -5
Post by sukotsuto on May 8, 2013 18:03:24 GMT -5
What's your take on ego? How prideful and egotistical can you be? Is having ego a positive or negative thing for you? Are you competitive?
Common consensus seem to imply that having an ego is a negative thing, associated with jerks who think they're above others. But I always feel that ego can't be simplified into something like that, as it encompasses a lot more than simply wanting to one-up another person. Besides, a person that has zero ego would probably either be a monk or a super-lazy couch potato.
As some of you may have been able to tell over the years, I'm very egotistical, even if I'm quiet about it IRL. And I try to at least channel this ego towards a positive route, where instead of trying to compare myself to others, I try my hard to compare me to myself, and always think that "I can do way better than this". This makes me work hard and do all the things that I used to not do before, when I used to have a big fear of doing anything that will embarrass me.
It can spill over towards being negative at times, as I if I felt that I didn't put enough effort into something, I feel weak and won't be able to sleep well at night, beating myself up for not being better than how I expected myself to be for that day. That, and I try to keep quiet most of the time IRL, as I may start steering conversations to be all about me.
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Ego
Posted On: May 9, 2013 2:17:46 GMT -5
Post by Hiro the Half-Elf on May 9, 2013 2:17:46 GMT -5
My lack of self-concept is so complete and thorough that it manifests as an overwhelming negative ego which consumes and ravages all aspects of my life and social connections.
In short: Not enough ego, not a good thing. Comes off as a bit strong. Damaging to other people.
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Ego
Posted On: May 9, 2013 2:46:56 GMT -5
Post by Youngster Joey on May 9, 2013 2:46:56 GMT -5
I'll freely admit I'm my own worst enemy and really don't have much going on in the self-esteem department. I never feel good enough, and when my good bud depression rolls in, an abject failure. But I also vigorously defend my opinions and beliefs. It creates for an interesting paradox. I've had people tell me that I'm too shy and need to be less self-doubting, and I've also had people tell me I come off as intimidating.
As far as competition goes, I'm not competitive at all with other people. I really couldn't care less what other people are doing. Competitive with myself? Absolutely. Especially if there are numbers involved (grades, weight, etc.).
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Ego
Posted On: May 9, 2013 20:52:27 GMT -5
Post by gαявαge on May 9, 2013 20:52:27 GMT -5
I cover up my self loathing with copious amounts of self deprecation that make me look egotistical and intimidating to most people. But still, I don't really have a high self esteem. I tend to lean on the depressive side of the scale.
Nevertheless, I'm really critical and demanding with people in their work and with me and my own work. Most people in my class, for example, have a tendency to half-ass everything they do, and in Medicine that's intolerable.
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Post by Youngster Joey on May 10, 2013 2:32:13 GMT -5
Well, you know how the old joke goes--what do you call someone in med school who graduated at the bottom of his class? Doctor.
But yeah, I can see why your classmates' apathy would be disconcerting in a field like medicine. Other fields, not so much. If other people want to half-ass their education, that's their prerogative. You only get out of it what you put into it.
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Ego
Posted On: May 10, 2013 13:43:35 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on May 10, 2013 13:43:35 GMT -5
There is a diffrent between "arrogance" & "Pride"....
looking down to people & never accept thier opinions is what makes sad & makes you bad...having confidence in yourself not a bad thing as you tell yourself "I'm the best...I have most skill"...
So ego has degrees...you should be on the safe level to think highly of yourself but don't mistreat people..
I do this myself...I love myself so much
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Post by PanbanRichard on May 10, 2013 14:54:34 GMT -5
I try to give myself an ego in order to progress in life. Before, I would always care about every single thing for others where it just got to the point of being mentally exhausting without any personal progress.
I still keep a benevolent mind for others, but I'm already struggling as is for my personal goals, so I need an ego in order to complete the long and arduous journey that I've put on myself.
Bottom line, the negative connotations of egotism is something I try to avoid, while making sure I do have enough of an ego in order to step forward in life, no matter how long it takes.
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lynnie
Oracle Knight
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Ego
Posted On: Jun 2, 2015 17:39:11 GMT -5
Post by lynnie on Jun 2, 2015 17:39:11 GMT -5
There is a difference between confidence and ego. A lot of people assume if you're confident in your looks (for example), you're full of yourself. You're either a low esteemed loser or a person who is in love with themselves 100%. According to people nowadays, at least. I believe that your ego can act as a double edged sword. It may help you in certain aspects of your life but can also deter many people away. I joking say "you're only feeding my ego," the thing is, I can see that anything can make an ego grow in a way; hate, love, its all something that I can take in and enrich myself. As for confidence, I believe in the whole "fake it till you make it" kind of ideology. It has certainly helped me.
Perhaps the two ideas have blurred very much together. Who knows.
Competitive? As in what? Looks? Grades? Being social? No. I don't see the point of competing with people who don't matter (aka I don't see the point of wasting my time on something so stupid). I have no problems with light hearted competition but not for such petty things such as: looks and or popularity. That'll only bring out the ugliness of people. Besides, I'm only competitive when it comes to Tekken or something. I must win.
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Derman
Oracle Knight
I still don't have a knife tag on my golden birth knife
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Ego
Posted On: Jun 3, 2015 9:06:26 GMT -5
Post by Derman on Jun 3, 2015 9:06:26 GMT -5
I don't really care about my ego or anything along those lines. I don't care if someone sees me as inferior and I kinda do not like if someone treats me as superior. I do not "love" myself , but I do not hate either. I'm just fine with whatever I am. I have a feeling I subconsciously think I am better than everyone else and I've been trying to fix that. I used to have, and still maybe have, low self esteem. I've just "stopped giving a ****" and lost the need to be any better than what I am. Maybe it's a bad thing, I'm not sure.
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